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"WHO IS MAHRAM AND WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE NA-MAHRAM BOTH FOR MEN AND WOMEN".
Well, it is no doubt one of the most important issues of THE TEACHINGS OF ISLAMIC SOCIETY. But unfortunately it’s the most neglected area today. ISLAM has laid a great stress on to this point, whose clear cut proof we can easily find out in SURAH NISA, SURAH NOOR AND IN SURAH AHZAB.
WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE MAHRAM FOR MUSLIM MEN:
Any woman, with whom a man has a relationship (of blood or foster) that precludes marriage, is considered a Mahram to him. Mahram women include his mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, aunt, grandaunt, niece, grandniece, his father's wife, his wife's daughter, his mother-in-law, his foster mother, foster sisters, and any foster relatives that are similar to the above mentioned blood relatives.
IN SURAH NISA, ALLAH RABB UL IZAT ORDERS MUSLIM MEN:
"And marry not women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed; indeed it was shameful and most hateful, and an evil way. Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mother who breastfed you, your foster sisters, your wives' mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in -but there is no sin on you if you have not done so (to marry their daughters), the wives of your sons who spring from your loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. " [4:22-23]
All the man's female relatives mentioned in these verses are considered his Mahrams, because it is unlawful (haram) for him to marry them, except the wife's sister mentioned last, who is not a Mahram because he can marry her if he divorces his wife, or if she dies.
MUSLIM MEN ORDERED TO LOWER THEIR GAZE
Moreover for a Muslim man, ALLAH ALMIGHTY also Orders him to lower his gaze. In this context ALLAH ALMIGHTY Commands in the following verse of SURAH NOOR:
24:30] Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
Here it is also to be kept in mind by all the believing MEN that such orders of "lowering the gaze" were first ordained onto them and in the very next verse same orders were prescribed onto the believing women.
But what happens commonly in the Muslim societies today is that
"PARENTS DO WARN THEIR DAUGHTERS NOT TO LOOK AT MALES BUT THEY FORGET TO TEACH THEIR SONS THAT THEY TOO ARE STRICTLY PROHIBITED BY ALLAH ALMIGHTY AND HOLY PROPHET (SAW) TO NOT STARE AND RAISE THEIR GAZE TOWARDS FEMALES."
REAL TRAUMA:
And no doubt this is the crux of the matter why Muslim Societies Today are ruined and going onto the verge of disaster. Its parents’ duty indeed to tell their children both sons and daughters, about the clear cut commands of ALLAH ALMIGHTY, so that there may arise no indecent, immoral and unethical situations as today we are seeing and unfortunately facing in our Islamic Societies. In fact if the children are being warned about these all commands from the very childhood and are bewared that in case of disobedience of such rules they ll have to face ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S wrath & RASOOL ALLAH (SAW)'s anger in both the worlds, then from the earliest age, a sense of aversion from all such prohibited acts ll develop in them. They ll realize that from these things ALLAH ALMIGHTY WILL BE ANGRY at them and this concept will be so firm in their minds that on reaching the age of maturity they ll never ever INSHA ALLAH TALA indulge themselves in any indecent, UNISLAMIC Acts.
WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE A MAHRAM FOR MUSLIM WOMEN:
24:31] "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss".
In this verse not only those who are MAHRAM for a Muslim women are mentioned but also ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S CLEARCUT ORDERS about lowering their gaze is given.
MUSLIM WOMEN ORDERED TO TAKE HIJAB
ALLAH ALMIGHTY ALSO COMMANDS Muslim women to veil themselves before going out or coming in front of any Na-Mahram, so that they not be molested and teased .its really ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S gift for all the Muslim women but we, unluckily, ponder over it not.
IN SURAH AHZAB ALLAH ALMIGHTY COMMANDS ABOUT THE BELIEVING WOMEN:
33:59] "O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful".
SHAKING HANDS WITH NA-MEHRAM
The traditions of certain societies have prevailed over Allah's Shari'ah concerning this matter. Their wrong habits have overcome the rule of religion so much so that when one presents the rule of the Shari'ah to them, he is accused of being backward.
Shaking the hand of one's female cousins, or one's uncles' wives has become as easy as falling off a log in our societies, but if people considered seriously the dangers of this matter in the Shari'ah, they would not do it. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe waalihi wasallam, said,
"It is better for one of you to be pierced by an iron needle in the head than to touch the hand of a woman that is not allowed to him." (Tabarani)
This sin is considered a fornication of the hand, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "The eyes fornicate, and the hands fornicate, and the feet fornicate, and the intimate parts fornicate." (Ahmad)
Is there a person purer than Muhammad, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam? And in spite of that he said, "I do not shake women's hands." (Ahmad) He also said, "I do not touch women's hands." (Tabarani)
Aisha, radhiallahu anha, said, "No by Allah, the Prophet's hand never touched a woman's hand, he used to accept their pledge of allegiance by [hearing their] words only." (Muslim)
Men who threaten to divorce their pious wives if they refuse to shake their brothers' hands should fear Allah. It should also be known that wearing a glove or wrapping the hand with a cloth while shaking hands is not allowed either.
CONCLUSION:
MAY ALLAH ALMIGHTY HELP ALL MUSLIM UMMAH TO FOLLOW HIS COMMANDS COMPLETELY AND MAY WE ALL MUSLIMS GET COMPLETE UNDERSTANDING OF THESE WARNING WORDS OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY, SO THAT WE MAY BE SAVED FROM ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S ANGER AND RASOOL ALLAH (SAW)' S ANNOYANCE IN BOTH THE WORLDS. AMEEN.
33:36]"It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by ALLAH and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys ALLAH and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path".
JAZAK ALLAH KHAIR.
"WHO IS MAHRAM AND WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE NA-MAHRAM BOTH FOR MEN AND WOMEN".
Well, it is no doubt one of the most important issues of THE TEACHINGS OF ISLAMIC SOCIETY. But unfortunately it’s the most neglected area today. ISLAM has laid a great stress on to this point, whose clear cut proof we can easily find out in SURAH NISA, SURAH NOOR AND IN SURAH AHZAB.
WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE MAHRAM FOR MUSLIM MEN:
Any woman, with whom a man has a relationship (of blood or foster) that precludes marriage, is considered a Mahram to him. Mahram women include his mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, aunt, grandaunt, niece, grandniece, his father's wife, his wife's daughter, his mother-in-law, his foster mother, foster sisters, and any foster relatives that are similar to the above mentioned blood relatives.
IN SURAH NISA, ALLAH RABB UL IZAT ORDERS MUSLIM MEN:
"And marry not women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed; indeed it was shameful and most hateful, and an evil way. Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mother who breastfed you, your foster sisters, your wives' mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in -but there is no sin on you if you have not done so (to marry their daughters), the wives of your sons who spring from your loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. " [4:22-23]
All the man's female relatives mentioned in these verses are considered his Mahrams, because it is unlawful (haram) for him to marry them, except the wife's sister mentioned last, who is not a Mahram because he can marry her if he divorces his wife, or if she dies.
MUSLIM MEN ORDERED TO LOWER THEIR GAZE
Moreover for a Muslim man, ALLAH ALMIGHTY also Orders him to lower his gaze. In this context ALLAH ALMIGHTY Commands in the following verse of SURAH NOOR:
24:30] Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
Here it is also to be kept in mind by all the believing MEN that such orders of "lowering the gaze" were first ordained onto them and in the very next verse same orders were prescribed onto the believing women.
But what happens commonly in the Muslim societies today is that
"PARENTS DO WARN THEIR DAUGHTERS NOT TO LOOK AT MALES BUT THEY FORGET TO TEACH THEIR SONS THAT THEY TOO ARE STRICTLY PROHIBITED BY ALLAH ALMIGHTY AND HOLY PROPHET (SAW) TO NOT STARE AND RAISE THEIR GAZE TOWARDS FEMALES."
REAL TRAUMA:
And no doubt this is the crux of the matter why Muslim Societies Today are ruined and going onto the verge of disaster. Its parents’ duty indeed to tell their children both sons and daughters, about the clear cut commands of ALLAH ALMIGHTY, so that there may arise no indecent, immoral and unethical situations as today we are seeing and unfortunately facing in our Islamic Societies. In fact if the children are being warned about these all commands from the very childhood and are bewared that in case of disobedience of such rules they ll have to face ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S wrath & RASOOL ALLAH (SAW)'s anger in both the worlds, then from the earliest age, a sense of aversion from all such prohibited acts ll develop in them. They ll realize that from these things ALLAH ALMIGHTY WILL BE ANGRY at them and this concept will be so firm in their minds that on reaching the age of maturity they ll never ever INSHA ALLAH TALA indulge themselves in any indecent, UNISLAMIC Acts.
WHO IS CONSIDERED TO BE A MAHRAM FOR MUSLIM WOMEN:
24:31] "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss".
In this verse not only those who are MAHRAM for a Muslim women are mentioned but also ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S CLEARCUT ORDERS about lowering their gaze is given.
MUSLIM WOMEN ORDERED TO TAKE HIJAB
ALLAH ALMIGHTY ALSO COMMANDS Muslim women to veil themselves before going out or coming in front of any Na-Mahram, so that they not be molested and teased .its really ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S gift for all the Muslim women but we, unluckily, ponder over it not.
IN SURAH AHZAB ALLAH ALMIGHTY COMMANDS ABOUT THE BELIEVING WOMEN:
33:59] "O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful".
SHAKING HANDS WITH NA-MEHRAM
The traditions of certain societies have prevailed over Allah's Shari'ah concerning this matter. Their wrong habits have overcome the rule of religion so much so that when one presents the rule of the Shari'ah to them, he is accused of being backward.
Shaking the hand of one's female cousins, or one's uncles' wives has become as easy as falling off a log in our societies, but if people considered seriously the dangers of this matter in the Shari'ah, they would not do it. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe waalihi wasallam, said,
"It is better for one of you to be pierced by an iron needle in the head than to touch the hand of a woman that is not allowed to him." (Tabarani)
This sin is considered a fornication of the hand, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "The eyes fornicate, and the hands fornicate, and the feet fornicate, and the intimate parts fornicate." (Ahmad)
Is there a person purer than Muhammad, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam? And in spite of that he said, "I do not shake women's hands." (Ahmad) He also said, "I do not touch women's hands." (Tabarani)
Aisha, radhiallahu anha, said, "No by Allah, the Prophet's hand never touched a woman's hand, he used to accept their pledge of allegiance by [hearing their] words only." (Muslim)
Men who threaten to divorce their pious wives if they refuse to shake their brothers' hands should fear Allah. It should also be known that wearing a glove or wrapping the hand with a cloth while shaking hands is not allowed either.
CONCLUSION:
MAY ALLAH ALMIGHTY HELP ALL MUSLIM UMMAH TO FOLLOW HIS COMMANDS COMPLETELY AND MAY WE ALL MUSLIMS GET COMPLETE UNDERSTANDING OF THESE WARNING WORDS OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY, SO THAT WE MAY BE SAVED FROM ALLAH ALMIGHTY'S ANGER AND RASOOL ALLAH (SAW)' S ANNOYANCE IN BOTH THE WORLDS. AMEEN.
33:36]"It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by ALLAH and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys ALLAH and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path".
JAZAK ALLAH KHAIR.
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make more muslim as aware as.
jazakallah
I really appreciate your work for making us aware through the verses of Holy Quran and sayings of Hazrat Muhammd (SAW).
May Allah give you the strength and Courage to do more.
Misbah Ullah